Monday, February 26, 2024
As the oldest sibling in the family and Maria our baby sister, our lifetime together would be impossible to recite again. Instead, I’m going to veer off the script and share with you the soundtrack to our lives together. We shared a love of music. The beats, and rhythms, and lyrics flowed between us, spanning decades, marking all of our milestones, providing comfort, and a bond that sustained us until the very end. Maria was eclectic with her tastes: from classical, rock n roll, Motown funk, salsa, merengue, and more; eclectic and vibrant, just like her.
The le-lo-lies that rang over the radio of our childhood were replaced by the one and only Prince and our unique soundtrack together really began. For her 18th birthday, I took my little sister to her very first concert to see him and if you knew Maria well, you knew Prince was her all-time favorite artist, and in his words:
“Dearly beloved, we have gathered here today
To get through this thing called life,
it means forever and that's a mighty long time
But I'm here to tell you, there's something else
The afterworld, a world of never-ending happiness”
I know Maria is truly happy now.
Maria was a devout Catholic who made it her mission to serve others, lending her athletic talents to many great causes over the years. She was a strong believer in peace and equality for all and she would want us to believe as John Lennon did in his masterpiece Imagine:
“Imagine a world of peace, without materialism, without borders separating nations, and without religion?”
May all the miles you ran and peddled lead to a world of peace that you had imagined.
And in our sadness, may the great Smokey Robinson comfort us with his Tears of a Clown:
“Now, there's some sad things known to man,
But ain't too much sadder than the tears of a clown”
May the soulful voice of Smokey soothe us when we are sad and always remember Maria’s portrayal of happiness with her beautiful, beautiful smile.
The Temptations was one of our all-time favorites. A band full of joy that always made you wanna move and My Girl was our anthem:
“I've got sunshine on a cloudy day
When it's cold outside
I've got the month of May
I guess you'd say
What can make me feel this way
My girl, my girl, my girl
Talkin' 'bout my girl”
Let us always remember and talk about OUR girl Maria as our sunshine and inspiration forever, and remember the love and care she provided to our girl MAMA for many years.
To the sister who loved to dance, always grooving and shaking anywhere she went. She was the life of the party, jumping in any dance circle with arms raised, bouncing around. She led us six siblings in one last dance circle together at Grant and Jen’s wedding: May her recent favorite artist Pit Bull play:
"Uno, dos, tres, cuatro
Rumba (sí)
Ella quiere su rumba (cómo?)
Si e' verdad que tú ere' guapa
Yo te voy a poner gozar."
One, two, three, four: She wants her rumba
Rumba….It’s true that you are so pretty
So I'm going to make you enjoy your rumba. (dance).”
Maria, may you continue your rumba up in heaven.
I’ll conclude our soundtrack with Maria’s & mine favorite song of all time to sing and dance to; one that played in the background of our most recent time together and her passing, and fortified our bond as sisters:
Vivir la Vida (Live Life) by Marc Anthony
“A veces llega la lluvia
Para limpiar las heridas
A veces solo una gota
Puede vencer la sequía."
Sometimes the rain comes
To clean the wounds
Sometimes with just one dop
You can beat the drought.
"¿Y para qué llorar? ¿Pa' qué?
Si duele una pena, se olvida
¿Y para qué sufrir? ¿Pa' qué?
Si así es la vida, hay que vivirla, la la le."
And why cry? For what?
If pain hurts, let’s forget about it
And why suffer? For what?
If this is life, you just have to live it, la la le.
The music was always playing in our lives and in our hearts. It will always be in the background of our shared time together, forever connecting me to ALL of the special moments God granted us. Maria was my sister and she will always be my sister. But she was an amazing wife to her doting husband Chuck, and the best of mothers to her 3 children: Jazmin, Katie, and Brad. But her role as grandmother, or Mima, to her precious Grandson Christopher, will always be her starring role. Your mother and Mima loved you all so very much and she was so proud. Your Hector Band created your own music and a masterpiece of a soundtrack for life. The music will heal us in our time of despair. And I know María wants us to continue to live life to the fullest, with the volume turned all the way up! Please keep a smile on your face, love in your hearts to share, and may the music never stop. It was an honor to be your big sister.
Te amo mucho mi hermanita “guerrera María”.
Lovingly,
Your sister Emma